Fall In Love With Yourself First

He loves me, he loves me not?



Okay he SAYS he loves you. He’s so madly in love with you, can’t live without you, you’re his rib lingo, right? Oh or my all time favorite, we can date “EXCLUSIVELY” but I’m not ready for a relationship. RUN!!! I can’t make this up, men really try us. Sis, are his actions in alignment with his words?....likely not. What does your intuition say? Our hearts are at a constant battle with the mind. If you read my January Queen of the Months feature, she considered being single a form of freedom. I agree. Setting standards and not settling allows you to easily weed out the liars and manipulators. Someone recently asked me if I believe in the 80/20 theory. What I will say is no man is perfect but the man who is ready to love you will make it undoubtedly known. Vulnerability causes us to be hesitant because in order to find true love you must expose your true self. Now I have a no need to waste our time mind state. I’m a single mom of three, I have a full time career and operate an independent business. In layman’s terms, don’t waste my time. I’ve literally had this conversation twice this week. I do not entertain men who have different expectations than what I have. I NO LONGER tolerate one foot in and one foot out situationships. Sis, it’s unhealthy. In my time of singleness I’ve found a fondness in other things. I have new hobbies, I’ve found interests in things I typically wouldn’t have and have built new HEALTHY PLATONIC friendships. Many women fear being alone and settle. I sleep peacefully not settling. I seek happiness. When a man truly experiences unconditional love, there are no excuses. Being in love is easy. If you have any doubts, knock his ass off the pedestal you’ve created. Remember, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Hold on to your freedom until God sends you a man who loves you so deep, the ocean would be jealous. Love you all!

-Jasi


Cheers to NEW BEGINNINGS!!!

First, New Year blessings! I diverted from what my first 2019 blog was supposed to be about; mourning. I prayed about it and something’s and people aren’t worth your energy when you’re elevating yourself. I am an unapologetic, imperfect Christian. I’m just a girl still finding herself. My story is being written by God as I write this post. I have many current opportunities that are allowing me to step out on faith this year. I will not worry. I will not doubt. I will nourish and create healthy relationships. Mental and emotional heath are still dear to my heart but I only be blogging once to twice per month. I will let my actions speak but 2019 has already been good to me. 

A few things to carry into the New Year to be mindful of:
-Love is easy
-Follow your intuition 
-It’s okay to be alone
-Remove all emotional depressing triggers regardless of affiliation 
-Watch the actions of others and make decisions accordingly 
-Being emotionally available to someone other than your partner is cheating
-Know who your riders really are. Anyone torn gotta go.

Oh...And Sis when the conversation gets shorter with you, it’s getting longer with someone else. 
I am creating a masterpiece.
Chat soon! Blessings!




Christmas Eve with My Three Musketeers

This year we made Christmas ornaments and drank got chocolate. Even though I enjoy creating holiday memories and traditions with my babies, I do remind them JESUS is the reason for the season. Happy Holidays to you and yours! Blessings!








THE ASSASSIN LOVER

Whew, chile! Life has been so busy, and I apologize for the delay with this blog post. The children have had various commitments that I’ve had to prepare them for this week. Now let’s get down to business. Women by nature are caretakers. This hinders us when trying to love a man who is unworthy. Ever heard the saying “throwing rocks then hiding your hands.” This reminds me of the “unworthy man.” I, myself, am guilty of giving benefits to a man who has not SHOWN he is ready to invest Jasmin. Over time, this may become a depression trigger; the constant feeling of not being enough. The goal is to avoid and cut all triggers. Motives matter. HIS motives matter. You are the prize. Awakening a woman’s love is something that doesn’t happen overnight. A man who awakens a woman’s love with no intention to love her is a coward. A man who awakens a woman love with the plan to find flaws for a way out is a coward. A woman who awakens a woman’s love who can’t carry any burdens or baggage she may come with is a coward. Don’t do it, Sis. I believe transparency is vital. There is nothing wrong with looking a man in the eyes to discuss genuine intentions. And I say LOOK HIM IN THE EYES instead of texting because cell phones have taken away the intimacy out of relationships these days. Next time you go on a date, put your phone away. Don’t fall victim to a man who is unworthy of your love. Love is an ACTION word. Trust me, sleeping better alone peacefully is better. Below are some inspirational KINGS I follow on Instagram. The links have been provided. Happy healing!

-Jasiđź’—


(https://www.instagram.com/r.h.sin/)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY SIS!

Sisters are God’s way of reassuring mankind that pain exists, but so do healers. Happy birthday to one such sis! Thank you for being the perfect companion on this ride of SISTERSHIP! I love you beyond measure.


LAYING SOLID FOUNDATIONS THROUGH HEALING



How do you heal when you are broken? How do you break the cycle? Unless you can answer these questions and have an action plan in place your life will be constant chaos. 

TIME HEALS

Time heals, literally. You have to be patient when putting the pieces of your life back together. You must spiritually strengthen yourself. I’m very close to my parents and as I’ve gotten older, our bond has become stronger. My Daddy told me “Jasmin take your time. Cut all ties before you move on”. My parents are a source of constant love and support. They’ve always supported my endeavors. And my baby sister encouraged me to journal which resulted into this blog. When you are ready to move on do not settle or ignore red flags. 
When I was broken, it seemed like everyone around me was getting a blessing but me. I felt discouraged. I prayed constantly. Have you ever loved someone so much that you prayed to UNLOVE them? That’s where I was. Psalm 147:3 reads: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Your season will come but you must be patient. God may not show up when we want him too but he’s always on time. Gods timing. 

When you’re depressed you always have the capability to take control of your life. Engaging in healthy coping mechanisms put me on the right path to healing. For me, personally I started journaling daily. At the end of each week I would go back and read the journal entries to see where I was making progress and where I had opportunity to improve.

According to Everyday Health there are many alternatives: talking to a therapist, boost your self image (when we look good, we feel good right), stick to a schedule and even staying busy. I volunteer at my daughters school frequently. 

As your life begins to shift in a positive direction, you will realize you’re not the same person you used to be. DO NOT allow others to label you based on your past. Walking with God was my game changing strategy. Happy Healing! Love you all.





Tis’ The Season! Happy Holidays!










Isaiah 9:6

For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace

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