The Art of Being Happily Single

I’ve never liked the word “unmarried”, “never married” or the term I despise the most “baby mama”. I don’t like to define myself in terms of what I am not. My life is about who I am—what I do, who I care about, what I care about, how I think, and what I aspire to. In the U.S., for example, fewer than 20 percent of all households are comprised of married parents and their kids. There are more households consisting of just one person living alone. My christen are happy, stable and thriving. 

Society has shown MEN ARE JUDGED BASED ON THEIR POTENTIAL; WOMEN ARE JUDGED BASED ON THEIR PAST PERFORMANCE. Such a narcissistic double standard. 

Vulnerability

A lot of men think it’s unsexy or unmanly to show feelings and be vulnerable, however, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Most women are attracted to men who are emotionally stable and who can express their feelings. I think a lot of men don’t want to show emotions because they feel like they need to save face from other men who might judge them as weak. However, most women find it very sexy if men can express their feelings especially in their presence and it creates a stronger bond.

Beware of narcissist

• Narcissists are attracted to certain types of people.
• Rather than weak, vulnerable people, they tend to go for the strong-willed and talented.
• This is because they see it as a challenge, and they will find more entertainment in taking down someone impressive.
• They are also attracted to people who reflect well on themselves - they like to show off their partner in public, but abuse them behind the scenes

A common misconception is that narcissists go for the weak, because they are easier to manipulate. In fact, narcissists prefer to try and hook someone in who is strong-willed, and who has talents or characteristics they admire. That way, they feel more accomplished if they succeed in tearing them down.

Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others. the reality is I am my own person, and if I can’t enjoy being single, how can I enjoy being with someone else?